I specialize in working with people who want help with:

  • Perfectionism, over-control, avoidance, anxiety

  • Hopelessness, feeling stuck, disconnected, guilty, depressed

  • Irritability, resentment, impatience, overwhelm

  • Relationships and relationship patterns that feel unfulfilling or no longer fit

  • Difficulty saying no or setting limits/boundaries

  • Changes to self and relationships that come with approaching midlife, including becoming a parent

Burnout, disconnection, and the need for something more

Many capable and self-reliant adults reach a point—often in their 30s, 40s, or 50s—where the strategies they’ve long relied on start to lose their effectiveness. Perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and pushing through discomfort often develop as ways to cope with stress, gain approval, or feel in control. Over time, these patterns can become deeply ingrained.

But while these coping strategies may have helped you succeed, they can also come at a cost. As life responsibilities grow and internal expectations remain rigid, it's common to experience symptoms of burnout, chronic stress, and emotional disconnection. You may notice persistent fatigue, irritability, loss of motivation, or feeling distant from your own emotions or relationships.

Psychologically, this happens because behaviors that once functioned to protect or motivate you are no longer flexible. When coping mechanisms become rigid or automatic, they can crowd out more values-based ways of living. This can lead to a sense of emptiness or feeling stuck—like you're doing everything you're "supposed to," but not finding it meaningful or sustainable.

Is this a midlife crisis?

What feels like a crisis can actually be a signal that something important in your life is ready to change.

Midlife isn’t about a specific number—it’s a shift in how you experience yourself and the world around you. It’s a time when transitions push you to reevaluate what truly matters and when the life you’ve built may no longer feel like the right fit. Relationships more through new phases, career paths evolve, priorities change, and you may find yourself questioning “what’s next?”

While these transitions can bring uncertainty, they also offer a powerful opportunity for realignment. When old roles and routines are no longer working for you, it’s a good time to step back, reassess, and move forward with greater clarity and intention.